Mixed Messages Pt 6

My Life Plan

My Spiritual Goals:

  1. To invite God into my heart daily. I know that apart from God I am nothing. ANYTHING that is good in me comes from God. I need to ask for God's will in my life daily, and to surrender and trust His will for my life.

  2. To have fun with God. To praise His name.

  3. To accept my weakness. What makes me closer to God is recognizing I can't do it all. I will never relapse when I'm weak, but it's me thinking I can handle it that will lead to pain and suffering.

  4. To love. I want to stay out of the box. No matter how hard I try my needs will never be met good enough. Love God, love others, and be authentic.

My Marital Goals:

  1. To remember my bride is never my problem, my bride only reveals the problem in me.

  2. To listen to my bride’s heart more than her words.

  3. To enjoy my bride rather than please my bride.

  4. To be honest (intimate) with my bride. To be willing to hear what my bride thinks and to let her know how I feel.

  5. To pray with my bride and to pray for my bride. To just do life together.

  6. To have fun together.

  7. To keep the flame alive. Create times for us to have fun together.

  8. To support my bride’s dreams and goals.

  9. To focus on what I appreciate about my bride rather what irritates me.

  10. To take care of myself so we can have more time together.

My Recovery Goals:

  1. To never trust me. I'll even lie to myself.

  2. To always be in a group of brothers who care and who really know me and are willing to share life with me. For me, this one is especially important. I'm not sure I can be totally honest, even with myself, without my band of brothers. For too often, I say, “This time I won’t tell” or “it's not that bad.” But each time I meet with my guys and see them being brutally honest I know I can do it too. I can tell the truth and at that moment I'm set free. I fear what would happen if I didn't have others supporting me and whom I also support.

  3. To always be giving to others who need hope.

  4. To stop making SUBS (Seemingly Unimportant Decisions) that put me in high-risk situations.

  5. To be intentional when I travel or when my bride travels to keep myself safe.

  6. To never forget what my old nature is capable of.

  7. To have fun and laugh.

From the renewing of our vows to expecting our first child, it’s all a miracle. There are no guarantees in the outcomes of love, marriage, or healthy relationships. However when we take care of our side of the street there is a risk in loving ourselves enough to want to live a life of transparency, authenticity, intimacy, accountability, integrity, and vulnerability. So when you make eye contact with the man reflecting back at you in the mirror the message should be clear and concise.

I encourage you to make your own Life Plan. You may not have as many goals as myself and that is acceptable.  Still write down what you have. What are your spiritual, marital, and/or recovery goals?

My Life Plan

My Spiritual Goals:

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My Marital Goals or Relationship Goals:

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My Recovery Goals or Personal Goals:

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Remember to have fun and laugh. Don’t beat up on yourself but remember doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results puts you right back into insanity.

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start
from now and make a brand new ending.”-Carl Bard