Mixed Messages Pt 6

My Spiritual Goals:

  1. To invite God into my heart daily. I know that apart from God I am nothing. ANYTHING that is good in me comes from God. I need to ask for God's will in my life daily, and to surrender and trust His will for my life.

  2. To have fun with God. To praise His name.

  3. To accept my weakness. What makes me closer to God is recognizing I can't do it all. I will never relapse when I'm weak, but it's me thinking I can handle it that will lead to pain and suffering.

  4. To love. I want to stay out of the box. No matter how hard I try my needs will never be met good enough. Love God, love others, and be authentic.

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To the Little Boy in Me...

I am super excited about my new book that is coming out this spring! It's titled 'To the Little Boy in Me: Learning with Dyslexia and ADHD'. The premise of the book is me writing from where I am currently in life, a co-author of five books and a solo writer of two books previous to this book, to the little boy in me saying,  "You're going to be OK. You going to be just fine. Dyslexia is not a curse. ADHD is not a curse. These things are God-given blessings and gifts that add to my life. They complete me as an entire person.”

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Reflections on the importance of community...

Last weekend was transformative. I attended an amazing event designed for men...well for Dads!  As a stay-at-home Dad, it can sometimes feel lonely. Most stay-at-home parents are Moms, so Dads can feel isolated and looked down upon.  There is this unwritten rule that a man is supposed to work and provide for his family financially and the woman is supposed to give up her career and stay home to raise the kids.

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Reproductive Choices

Vasectomy.  Vasectomy. Yeah, I said it. That’s a scary word in a male’s vocabulary. Vasectomy. That’s what’s on the table for me. It’s an easier procedure for me than for my wife to have her tubes tied. Be that as it may, it’s not something that I’m 100% excited about. As a family we sat down and weighed out all of our options and asked the question, “Do we want to have more children?”

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Mixed Messages Pt 4

Learning the application of transparency, authenticity, intimacy, accountability, integrity, and vulnerability in relationships and ultimately in my marriage came at a cost. For me that price of admission was pain, loss, suffering, heartfelt sorrow, brokenness, and the death of an image. The words I have just defined do not reflect or describe pornography, lust, sex, or orgasms. The messages that they send are not mixed or confusing; it's simply a message of love and acceptance.

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Role Reversal

I recently had a conversation with a father when I was walking into King's Kids to pick up my oldest daughter, Journey. He had a look of total exhaustion of on his face. He had dropped his daughter off at school earlier that morning and he was now coming to pick her up.  I was in the process of taking Justice out of her carseat and walking in beside him.

I looked at him and said, “This is quite exhausting, isn’t it?”  He said, “Yes, it really is.” I said, “I know, I’m a stay-at-home dad and I’ve had a lot of other opportunities in my life do to a lot of other things, including playing college football, and this is the most exhausting thing I’ve done in my life.”

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Life's Marathons

Today marks the 5 year anniversary of my first and only marathon so far in life. It was with my bride during Valentine’s weekend in Austin,TX. Here are the words I wrote after the race:

“Setting a goal so high and lofty like we did caused me to break down in tears this afternoon. What we thought was important and what we wanted to accomplish didn’t add up or match to what God knew was entirely different and better. The marathon was a symbol and metaphor of our marriage.

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Mixed Messages Pt 3

Growing up as a young boy in my world, I received many mixed messages, and more mixed messages followed. There were some good messages.  I saw men provide for their household by working hard, keeping food on the table, the lights on, and clothes on the backs of their children.  I heard a lot about going to school and working hard to get a good education. I was told not to have sex before marriage, not to get a girl pregnant, to wear a condom to avoid STDs, and to take care of your responsibilities if you do get a girl pregnant. But sex and sexuality, pornography, and how to have a healthy loving relationship and marriage were not spoken about unfortunately.  

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Justice Gets Shots

Going to the doctor can be an adventure with little ones, especially on days when you know shots are part of the game plan. I like to use these appointments to teach my girls that they don’t have to be afraid of going to the doctor, regardless of the reason for the visit. The less stress I feel, the more confident they will be when they have to face some of life’s little discomforts.  

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Mixed Messages - Pt 1

I want the future man to be able to understand that there is more to sex then just getting girls and hooking up. I want them to understand that the idea of real love requires a way of living that is open and vulnerable. A lot of people don't talk about that right now. It's about Snapchat, Twitter, Tinder and "hooking up" websites. I want the future man to be able to read this and say, “What if I want to be in a relationship or if I wanted to date somebody? What would that look like?” These type of qualities are very attractive to the opposite person I'm trying to date versus being sneaky, reclusive, or withholding.

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A Holiday Greeting

want to encourage everyone as we go into this holiday season to share a little more love, a little more kindness, a little more compassion, a little more grace, a little more patience, a little more understanding knowing that for some of us this is a great time of the year, but depending where people are in the stages of their life this can be a really tough time of year.

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The Pressure is Real

I cried this morning. It wasn’t very long maybe 15 seconds at the most. A lot of tears didn’t come just six or seven really heavy ones. It’s the best gift I could have given them myself. It was a much-needed relief. 

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